A life long Salvationist, originally from Long Island Newfoundland, Roxanne has been a SA Officer for 21 years. She has been happily married for 20 yrs to Larry and together they have a son Greg, 18. She loves cooking and baking and learning - actually, she considers herself a lifetime student!
I’m pleased to welcome Guest Blogger Roxanne Jennings to Full Potential.
One of the questions that is often asked today is – do you have a coach? If so, who is your coach? I have to admit that I love the Coaching model and have done some studies on it and look forward to doing more. And I am aware that coaching is more than just another technique to study, it is who I am. Easy to say, not always easy to remember! I want to learn all the techniques and practice them, yet I have had cause to reflect and the questions for reflection is:
Is coaching something else we need to learn how to DO and DO well in order to get to where we want to BE?
There is a danger of falling into a trap of believing that what we do is who we are. I am a wife; I am a mother; I am a Salvation Army Officer; I pay the bills, that is not who I am – just what I do.
It is very difficult for us to learn to just be. In the book Leadership From the Inside Out, Kevin Cashmen says, “Our training, development, and educational systems focus on learning about things. We learn what to think, not how to think. We learn what to do, not how to be. We learn what to achieve, not how to achieve. We learn about things, not the nature of things. We tend to fill up the container of knowledge but rarely consider comprehending it, expanding it or using it more effectively.”
If we are going to learn how to DO coaching then we are going to learn how to DO something outside of ourselves and while I believe some of that is necessary in learning the concepts and tools; we need to know who we are and lead from the inside out – to coach from our being and personhood.
We have been trained to DO adn now it will take conscious awareness to BE.
Take time to BE holy, the world rushes on;
Spend much time in secreet with Jesus alone;
By looking to Jesus, like Him though shalt be;
They friends in thy conduct his likeness shall see.
Take time to BE holy, BE calm in thy soul;
Each thought and each motive beneath his control;
Thus led by his spirit to fountains of love,
Thou soon shalt be fitted for service above.”
(William Dunn Longstaff 1822-1894)